Focus on You Boo: How Comparing Your Life to Others Alters Your Purpose



“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” – Winston Churchill

I’ve been meaning and wanting to write a post like this for awhile, and as I sip my peppermint tea along with listening to Solange’s “Cranes in the Sky”, I am more than ready to tell you all that I’m dealing with some real comparison issues. I’m at that point in my life where I question and compare myself to everything, which led me to take a much needed break from social media and people interaction altogether (Instagram, Facebook and Twitter), and plus I just got tired of seeing the same shit all the time (bad news posts, people arguing about this unbelievable election, and the latest diet tea trend). It’s just all been too much.

I’ve been personally struggling with my own issues in comparing my life with others, especially having full access to see what everyone’s status is with the internet. I’ve noticed myself thinking about how far I should be in life, and the fact that I’m not even close to any of those goals has been discouraging. And not to mention, seeing all these status updates about marriage proposals, new career moves, and the fact that people are just elevating in life, bothers me. I’m not upset that I see folks “glo-ing” up, but I’m more upset that the goals I set for myself have not come into fruition just yet…

I’m currently a jobless (and seeking), single, living-at-home-with-my-parents 24 year old, lol. Coming from living on my own for about 3 1/2 years, to sucking up my pride and asking my parents if I can move back in, was hard for me. Can I just say that I am completely humbled by this whole situation?! On the other hand though, I have been comparing how my life is now to others and it hasn’t helped me grow in the direction that I need and want to go into. I eventually want a great career that I look forward to working in everyday, I want to be in a healthy relationship with  a guy that I can see myself having a family with and I want to be more confident in the decisions that I make in life, not question everything.

For a long time, I have always felt that I lagged behind in life, so it’s taking me some time to undo these unhealthy habits. With the time that I’ve had to just sit around and think, I have become more grateful for everything that’s around me. Especially having a home to come back to in the first place, and to a family who supports me. Hearing their encouraging words, and those life lessons I thought would not apply to me, is what keeps me going and wanting to live with more intention.

As much as it’s great to have all the money, nice things, a great job, a relationship, etc. I also understand that it’s ok to not have all those things, because I’m probably not prepared for them, especially all at once. I’m not saying that I have completely stopped comparing, but I stop myself when I feel like I’m getting sad about my life. I try to remind myself that this situation is temporary and that whatever is for me, will come at the right time. This extra time that I have off, has allowed me to take better care of my health, I’ve joined a gym and workout about 3-4 times a week. As well I make it a point to write in my journal more so that I can track how my life is going and write out my feelings.

This whole finding yourself, and your purpose in life is not easy but it’s something to admire and embrace. I am learning that I need to focus on what’s going on with me before I think about how someone else’s life is going. We truly never know what someone has gone or is going through to get to “that” point in their life, so what is the point in feeling sorry for yourself?

I hope you all found something positive out of this post, as I have. I’m definitely aware that I am on a constant journey of learning, healing and growing. Some of this shit I’m going through sucks, but I can get through it. We can get through it.

Thanks for reading!

Shop with Lyst! Your Go-To Guide for the Best Dresses!

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Hey loves! I hope everyone is having a great week so far! Today’s post is a just quick guide on where you can shop for fabulous dresses, with reasonable prices with Lyst.

You’re probably curious as to what Lyst is, it’s an online personal shopping experience that’s tailored to your fashion style. They partner with designers and stores all over the world to bring Lyst users an array of awesome styles. In today’s post I’ll be sharing with you a couple of my favorite dresses from the Missguided Collection, that are great for day and night time looks. If you find something you like, be sure to check them out!

Below are my favorite styles!


These day time looks are perfect for those breezy days, where you want to still be stylish yet comfortable! Most of these looks can be easily paired with cute tennis shoes, ankle booties or sandals.


I was excited to see that they had plus size dresses in this Misguided collection, they ranged from casual to dressy styles. I personally think these looks are great for the upcoming holiday season, they’re bold in their cuts and colors. All you would need to do is accessorize!

I hope you all enjoyed this post, as I did looking through all the fabulous dresses! Leave a comment below to tell me which one is your favorite!

Thanks for reading,


Tea Time With Pumeli- Product Review

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Hey loves, how goes it? In today’s post I’m trying out Pumeli’s “Portable Tea Infuser”with Morrocan Green Mint Tea and discussing more ways to incorporate self-care into your daily routine. This past month has been C-R-A-Z-Y, I’ve had so many obstacles coming in from left to right, so it’s appropriate that I take some tea-time.

Since some days it’s difficult to grab a cup of tea and a good spot to reflect, I love that this tea infuser bottle is on-the-go for those just in case “tea times”. I also love that the bottle is double walled, keeping my tea hot or cold.Also it comes with a small, steel insert for the loose tea, it keeps most of it out of your mouth. If you’re a planner like me, I recommend to prepare your bottle the night before, especially if you like lemons and honey with your tea. And did you know you can also use this bottle for fruit/herb infused waters and smoothies? Amazing, right? I love products that are multi-purpose, and I know for sure that I can use this for hot or cold days. And it’s small enough to fit in a backpack, purse or car cup holder .



When preparing your tea with the steel infuser, try putting the it into the bottom of the glass, and then put the lid on top. The bottle was designed to not only be used as a steeper, but to be poured directly into a cup or drink from the glass. 


This Moroccan Mint Tea was delicious and so refreshing!

This Moroccan Mint Tea was delicious and so refreshing!


Something about hot tea, with honey and lemon, makes me want to just slow down and reflect on my life. As a daily tea drinker, it not only improves your physical health with antioxidants, but also helps with calming down your nerves. I’m a big advocate on nurturing your mental health, and tea helps do that. Remember at the beginning of this post when I said things got C-R-A-Z-Y? Well I’ve been going through some tough times, especially recently losing a job that I thought was good for me. As well my dating life has been a freak show in itself, so all of these unfortunate experiences really has me stressed out! Although I’m going through a lot, my circumstances are forcing me to slow down and reset some things in my life. I’m confident that everything will work out for the best!

That’s why this Portable Tea Infuser is perfect for my on-the-go people, it gives you that chance to take a few minutes of self reflection and to enjoy some delicious tea. Pumeli also has great gift sets for those tea lovers you know, so check them out and tell them I sent you! Overall loves, I’m not saying hot tea will solve all your problems, but I say give it a try, you have #permissiontorelax.


Thanks for reading Loves!



Ballin’ on a Budget: How do you Groupon your Coupon?


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If you’re like me, you want to save as much money as possible especially if you love to shop. Lately couponing has become a weekly ritual for me, before I think about shopping I ask myself, “Is there a coupon for this?” I like to call this type of lifestyle “Ballin’ on a Budget”. Saving  money while spending it on my favorite things, is something I definitely want to do.Which is why I love checking Groupon Coupons  first before I buy anything, and by doing this I’m more in control of my spending habits, which is something we should all aspire to do.

Retailers such as Starbucks, Gap, Kenneth Cole and Nordstrom Rack have verified coupons and codes for all you savvy shoppers. I highly recommend browsing Groupon Coupons first before any shopping trips, you’ll thank your bank account later! Since I’m still living the post-grad life, the last thing I want to do is spend more money if I don’t have to, and with trying to live decently on a budget, Groupon Coupons helps a lot with my goal for saving money. Also if you’re a student check out their Student Discounts section and save money honey! (lol I know super lame) but you get what I’m saying.

For Example, you could save money with these Groupon Coupons:

  • 40% off more at Loft
  • 10% off with
  •  40% Off ANY Order W/ Gap Promo Code

Alright Loves, that’s all for today! Don’t forget to share and comment your favorite ways to save money!

Thanks for reading!

Savings with Spookieloo: Save your Money and Phone Battery with Groupon!

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Hello Loves! In today’s post, I’m sharing some money-saving deals on your phone battery with Groupon. Happy Reading!

So I’m sure we can all agree that our phones are basically our lifelines right? I know I would probably go a little crazy if I didn’t have my phone on me at all times. Does it also bug you when your phone battery dies midday, and you’re not even close to a plug outlet? Yea, me too. As a creative professional and blogger, I need my phone to be charged and full of battery at all times; I have to check my social media, respond quickly to emails and occasionally snap a few pretty pictures. So lovelies, what are your go-to’s for keeping your phone charged? I usually carry my wall plugin if I know I’ll be near an outlet, but what happens if I’m not?

That’s why I love looking on Groupon Goods for the latest deals on battery cases, especially for iPhones! 

For all my bloggers, fashionistas on the go, and other creative professionals, having a case that not only protects your phone, but charges it is pretty awesome! And it’s a fraction of the price, so you’re not spending too much money trying to save your phone battery. As well, these cases make great gifts for friends and family!

Thanks for reading!

Self-Care with Spookieloo

Self Care in the midst of bullshittery


Hey lovlies! How’s everyone doing today? I hope you all are doing well, because you’re in for a treat with today’s post. I want to engage with you all starting today 8/16/16 through 8/23/16 on how important self-care is, especially if you’re having a hard time navigating life right now. Normally I’m pretty private about my personal life, but in the past couple of weeks I’ve been through an emotional rollercoaster (could be early PMS lol) and I’m tired of always feeling like my emotions don’t matter or that they’re not valid. I’m sure you’ve been there before, it feels like life is just smacking you up and down with no remorse huh?


This past weekend I went on a date that I thought would be something to remember, and boy was it! Basically the date I went on ended up with me being stranded by the guy that I was a on a date with, he left while I went to the restroom to freshen up. I came back, he was gone, ghost, left without a trace. I texted him, “Hey, you ok?” No reply. So I’m waiting, thinking and then finally came to the conclusion 30 minutes later, that this mofo left my ass (lol I can laugh now thank goodness), so I called and texted several more times, nothin boo. Embarrassed, hurt and angry, I sat there another 20 minutes in shock that this happened, I mean who does that? I eventually and begrudgingly called for an Uber ride, that was the longest and saddest drive I have ever endured.

Anyway fast forward to now, the guy eventually texted me back after I summoned my friends to bug his phone a little (lol), of course he was PISSED that I had something to say after what HE did. *Insert confused look* The conversation lasted about ten minutes, he really tried to hurt me, cut me down because I wanted to know why he would do that. When he said I had “bad intuition” and that he was “miserable” during the date, all I could do was shake my head. None of what he was said was true, which brings me to the point of this post: People’s hurtful words; well hurt, but they don’t have to for long.   

With the amount of frustration that I’ve been feeling towards life in general, and then this tragedy of a date happening, my emotions and self-confidence were shot down a few notches. I can be honest and say that shit hurt, but I engaged in some self-care activities to lift myself back up and will continue to for the rest of this week. Will you join me? Let’s look below!

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I know that was a wild story, but I wanted to share this with you all because it’s important that we bounce back from hurtful words, especially when we know that they’re not true. My method is not the cure all for frustration, but it’s a start in a healthier direction, towards a stronger mindset. Please know and understand that your emotions and feelings are valid, you’re not crazy boo, you got this. I got this.

If you decided to join me today on this self-care journey, remember to use #spookieloosselfcare, so we can help each other out. Well, that’s all for now, enjoy the rest of your day!




Adventure Time at the Universoul Circus


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Houston, TX-Aug. 9th, 2016- This past Tuesday, I was invited to experience the Universoul Circus at Butler Stadium. I’m not going to lie, this was my second circus experience and I seriously felt like a kid again. With all of the lights, amazing music and interactive performers, I literally was in awe the whole time. I truly enjoyed the diversity of the performances too, they were from all over the world; Trinidad, Colombia, China, Ethiopia and the U.S. !

Even if you’re an adult like me or have younger children, this circus is for everyone looking for a great time!




My senses were on overload, all of the colors, sounds, and the performers flying in the air really put me in a state of giddiness. I hope one day you’re able to experience my joy. Thanks for reading!

*Tickets were sponsored by Universoul Circus*